Monday, 10 May 2010

To Dance, or not to dance


So, to dance or not to dance that is the question!

In recent years it has become more apparent that couples are choosing to be as flamboyant as they can be with their dance. It seems that they are seeing their first dance as a way of expressing who they are without the traditional shuffle around the room with 100 plus guests watching.

Everyone is different, and in a recent wedding, the couple refrained from having a first dance at all, and obviously this was their choice, or maybe the groom's given his lack of confidence on the dancefloor!

The tradition of the first dance, is that it should be the epitome of romance and togetherness, the first dance you share as a married couple, and of course the signalling of the evening entertainment to begin. It usually occurs (in the UK at least) after the ceremony, speeches, food and cake cutting and for many couples it is the part of the day they have been dreading. However you are surrounded by people that you have invited, and who care for you deeply, and while this may be daunting, they are wishing you the very best and hoping this is the start of many happy dances together.

Originally the dance of tradition has been a waltz, but only once have I seen a waltz in the past few years. It was beautiful and you can see why it has long been the dance of choice, but as we know many couples now choose a song and even a routine that reflect their personalities and the dance hasn't been restricted to the post day festivities...anyone seen the church entrance routine by the whole bridal party? I wish I could have seen it in person, but for those that haven't seen it at all, check this out: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8DCt3Lmi28.

For ideas and inspiration, have a look at http://www.youtube.com/ and search through some of the tradition, fun and downright outrageous...then choose what's right for you.

Most importantly whatever you decide to do enjoy the first dance with your spouse. If it is a shuffle, take the opportunity to talk to each other and reflect on the day, this will probably be one of the few times throughout the day it will just be the two of you.